Monday, March 23, 2009

What Can I do To Get My Ex Boy Friend Back?



Dating, Marriage...staying together isn't always as easy as we wish.

Here are a few tips from the author of this book:
Are there actually 'magic' words you can use to get your ex to return your phone calls?Sounds hard to believe but there ARE words that nearly cast a spell and make your ex feel almost compelled to return your call. Cool huh?...I'm going to share this with you because this is one of the biggest questions I get from the over 35,000 subscribers just like you, that are trying to put their relationship back together.
So I am going to answer: "How do I get my ex to return my phone call, text or IM?"
But...WARNING! In the Magic Of Making Up, i lay out a complete strategy. If you use this technique alone, without an overall plan or strategy...you may damage your relatationship more than if they never returned your call.
What NOT to say! Before we get into the actual words, lets go over what message almost never works. And worse...Puts you in and AWFUL 'psychological' posotion.
These usually fall into 2 categories.
The Plead- Where the message sounds like "Steve, please, please call me. This is the third time I have called. I HAVE to talk to you."
And the EMERGENCY: "Cindy, this is an emergency. Please call me as soon as you get this."
Now, I think you can see what is wrong with both of those approaches? So, I won't go on and on...
How to Use Curiosity & Self Interest To Your Advantage. Here is the BIG SECRET!
When you combine the two, you have a recipe that WILL work 'magic'! So...let's look at what you can say that works nearly EVERY TIME: Don't forget to use a friendly tone: "Hi Steve". It's Cindy. I wanted to let you know that I appreciate what you did for me. Call me because I want to thank you in person". Do you see how that uses BOTH - curiosity and self interest?
He will be thinking. And he feels good because it is a positive message. Now....Before you call you need to do "Set Up"...which is figuring out what he did that you appreciate. It can be a small thing...but needs to be plausible. BUT...more importantly...2nd WARNING! Please have an underlying strategy lik I lay out in the Magic Of making Up System. BEFORE you call. If you apply this technique with no underlying strategy and they call you back, you can do more DAMAGE than good if you do not handle it correctly. Okay? What I'm saying...What you do before, during and after you get him to return your call is MORE important than getting him to return your call.
Makes sense? Have a PLAN...and .. just to be on the safe side, click on the book link for more practical and helpful ideas.

I'm rooting for you!

MeEvamarie

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